With any guy, you talking to a guy, not you willing to spend per hour until he gets better, or his entire organization you help to clean up.

A lot of things you do side by side. You learn the language, you go to the town city, you step by step figuring it out, and per hour drive him there, or he takes both of you there. Talk for him, explain things clearly, and approach a right way. Almost everything. 

A lot of the guys are not the first day knowing where are the everything at. The book, the legal term, the lunch box, the cleaning the house, the laundry, or you didn't have to wipe the floor every day. But you separate things in a small task.

Meaning including the food too. I didn't really have a job, but I won't drive myself to exhaustion. I don't get hungry anymore. He can eat all day long on the kitchen counter, I still preparing the food. I don't have that driven things to have a mood, to have a word to say, to have an eye to look at him. "Eat". 

But you have all that the body sensation.